As a female trial lawyer and mother who has survived nearly 25 years in practice, I am often asked by younger women about “work-life balance.” My response most often is, “balance is a state of mind not a state of being.” There are days as a working mother where you are at work and feel that you are neglecting your children and there are days when you are at home with your children, and you feel that you are neglecting your work.
The challenge is understanding that those days balance one another out. Knowing that your job and your family benefit from one another helps push through those difficult days.
The real impact of working moms is most evident in their daughters. The researchers found that women who grew up with working mothers are more likely to have careers themselves than those with stay at home moms, and they’re also more likely to have better, higher paying jobs.
I was glad to see that there is some objective data suggesting that I may have benefitted my daughters through my work. More importantly, on the subjective side, I am glad to see that they have grown up to be organized, positive, self-confident young women who are not afraid to challenge themselves. I credit that to me being a working mom. At Lincoln Derr we recognize the importance of family and encourage our lawyers to be well rounded individuals. Now we have some objective data to show them on those hard days at work.
Wife, Mother, Trial Lawyer. Not always in that order.